Hello there,
My name is Lina and I am here on BlogSpot to talk about this journey I'm on. I named this Christian, Dating and Celibate because that's technically what I am. I'm a Christian, I'm starting to get myself out there to date and being Celibate. Let's first explore the title of the blog... Being a Christian is all good and there are a lot of Christians out there that claim their faith but not live it. I'm not a Bible thumping, rock throwing, holier than thou Christian but I am trying my best to do the right things and be a good person, and Loving God and Loving people. I'm trying to be forgiving and all that jazz... you know being a Christian...People always say, "the Lord will bring him/her to you in His timing and not yours" "Men are suppose to pursue you and not the other way around". Well, what if you work from home, or barely get out the house, or not a clubber/bar person, What if you go to church and no one approaches you and what if the people you like have no clue what they want. I mean it's hard out here. I get it, The Lord will bring him to me and all that jazz but he's not going to come knocking at my door and say HEY, I'm here the Lord sent me just for you. LOL...Hence the Actively part of the link name... I think I should be actively putting myself in the environment that "the one" could walk up to me or approach me. Since I work from home.. yes, everyday. So I don't get out much except for Church.
Now, the Celibate / Waiting part of the blog and link... is obvious I would think. Trying to be a good Christian and trying my best to do better and follow the order that was meant for us, I have decided to be Celibate. I am several months... yes, months into this. I hope to be a year soon. How long this has been going on, I don't think I'll display all that information but just know, NOTHING is happening. I want to be married and want my husband to be the one I'm with sexually. I do have a son who is 16 and have had my share of "situationships/relationships/freindswithbenefits" and guess what... They didn't work out and were based on the wrong things and had no true foundation. I'm 33 now and I want more in my life than what I had. I can admit I didn't value myself much in my twenties and thought it was "fun" but like I said, here I am 33 and single. I've learned about myself, about what I want in life, about life itself and I have learned about love especially loving myself more and more everyday.
Now that you understand the name of the blog, the link and the reasoning behind it... Here is why I'm writing this and what I plan to do with this blog and I hope you can give me tips, encourage me, learn from me what to do and what NOT to do, because I'm sure I will make several mistakes, and share your experiences with me. I don't want to be bashed or any negativity on my blog. I am a loving person and want to display love even if you have something you want me to do better or learn from you, please say it in love and remember, I can't tell how you're talking in a message so if it comes off harsh to you, I may take it harshly. ok. :-)
WHY a Blog: 1) I'm bored and it sounded like a good idea in my head, 2) Someone else maybe going through the same so if I can shamelessly display my journey I hope you are encouraged and/or don't feel alone I'm with you in this, 3)if I meet someone I want to share it with the world lol. 4) like I said it sounded like a good idea LOL. 5) I have no clue what I'm doing
What I plan to do with this blog: I plan to share with you my days, my experiences, my dates, my embarrassments, my transparency, my naïve fantasy of seeking love vs. the harsh reality of trying to find love. Do I know everything NOPE, not at all, Do I have an idea of what I want, yeah but who doesn't... I have set up a Match.com profile 2 days ago so this popped in my head after the first phone encounter...You must continue to read to find out what happened.
MATCH.com:
Like I said, I set up a match.com profile the other day and put up a generic profile or who I am, what I like, what kind of guy would interest me and so forth. It seemed, to me, to be a good profile. I received some likes, winks and even messages. So one guy I thought, oh he's interesting, He's Christian, ok, let me send him a reply message. Everything went well so we exchanged numbers and later on he gave me a call. We chatted and on the first conversation says something that made me say... oh, you know I'm celibate. He said you're joking right? I said no, I'm serious... (while laughing because I'm sure he was shocked). He said not even Oral, I said NO not even oral. He continues to ask questions, "what happened in your past?, What did you're last experience do to you? How long are you planning to do this for, the "90day thing"? I said "I hope to keep it up until I get married" "I hope I don't fall and slip up LOL". He said... in a serious voice Well, maybe you should sleep on it, and by tomorrow about noon, if you haven't changed your mind then I'll know you can't make any adjustments to this craziness you're talking about".... So I laughed and said ok, well, have a good night and good luck in your search" he said good night to you and good luck to you....
Well, the next day came, I spoke to my best friend "K" about this conversation and she's very blunt and I love her for all the truths she talks to me about. She said...what... well I know you're not going to change your mind... As I'm talking to her about this, He text me and says "I guess you've decided... you need to put that mess on your profile... Better yet, you need to delete your Match profile all together. Match is not the place for you, no one is going for that Celibacy talk... But good luck to you LOL"
So in shock and out of utter bafflement I'm reading this to my best friend and she says "He's an A$$. Don't let that Jerk discourage you, there is someone special just for you.
After the day went on, I updated my profile and added a blurb about my celibacy and if it was ok with them, to wink and message but if not, to pass me by. Later I tried to delete my profile out of discouragement and thought, maybe this fool is right. Everyone is out for a quick fix or a relationship with sex is involved so I went to try to deactivate it. so I went through the process but lo and behold, I have already paid for the 3 months and it will be deactivated Oct 7th. So I thought...and "K" said, well that's good because you shouldn't be discouraged by ONE person who you got to see their true motives and colors. So, I'm still on Match.com and actively looking while waiting. Since then I have still received some winks and messages. Less than the first day but to thy own self be true, I'm glad it's fewer because it's less to weed out. They know they couldn't handle the celibacy dating then It's good they passed me up. But they are missing out on a good thing if I do say so myself. LOL..
I've decided to go to one of those "STIR" events they host on Friday So we'll see what happens. I'm extremely nervous, I'm taking a chance, and you never know. That someone maybe there, waiting for me. :-)
So with all that said, Welcome to my blog and thanks for being on this journey with me. I am not grammatically correct, nor will this be without typos or have a dyslexic feel to it but if you don't mind that... I'll write back soon.
~Lina
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